30 August 2010
Cambodians can be direct (although, yes, so can other people.)
On my recent trip in the countryside, a twenty six year old female passenger asked me about my marital status (divorced) and if I was thinking of finding a new wife in Cambodia. I replied (quite honestly) that I just hadn’t thought about it. On reflection the answer should have been a straight no, because i think that cross cultural marriages can have their problems and I haven’t thought about what would be involved in one. I came here to teach English, not to get a new younger wife.
The lady in question commented on the number of western men who come to Cambodia for this purpose. I didn’t know if I was being sounded out, or if she were sounding me out for an older friend of hers that I had met. Normally in Australia I might only discuss that subject with someone I’ve known for a time, or someone I had met on a dating site, where the assumption is that you’re looking for some kind of partnership or you wouldn’t be there.
I’ve also had a couple of Cambodians tickle me on the tummy while telling me I look overweight. They did It in a humorous way, but it takes a bit of getting used to – people I’d only met two or three times did this. I noticed when I was in Seam Reap, people standing quite close to me a couple of times held my upper arm upper arm in what was meant to be a friendly way when talking to me. They seemed to do it when they were earnestly trying to convincing me of something.
On a better note, I’ve been offered some evening work at a large university here, starting about the 15th. This leaves time for me to fit a trip to Vietnam into the last part of this week.
And I’ll be able to fit a trip back home in November without disrupting their teaching schedule. They have strange term dates here: exactly 60 teaching days per term, so if there’s a public holiday (they have about twenty a year here) the term just gets extended and the next one starts late, so they don’t on the same days each year.
In the meantime, I’ve joined in the exercises classes that are held in the park opposite the royal palace each late afternoon. (I don’t know what they do when it starts raining- I haven’t been there when that’s happened so far.)
2 thoughts on “Some blunt questions from Cambodians”
I am GREATLY enjoying your blog. I promise I won’t tickle you on the tummy!!
That’s great that you’ve been offered some teaching. The end of term approaches, and I’m feeling in good nick at the moment. I’ve lost 5 kilos, my classes are going well, and I’m feeling very positive life, work, family.
As I’ve said, I’ve found your emails very engaging. I’ve travelled so little (well, not at all overseas ..s o your blog is entertaining, thought provokijng etc. Any chance of adding some photos?
All the best. I’ll lok forward to the next installment.
… so all that tummy tickling did the trick!